| Love is the key..... || Jun 16, 2004 |
Is this forum been designed only for families with children?
Hello dear Ruxi. No, I don't think this is only for the families with children. I think this was started in this direction since one of the main "issues" (not really an issue) to face in a multilingual environment is to start managing the two (or more) languages through which two people will have to communicate with their children.
There are pros' out there that do not have this situation, either because the couple speaks the same language (a Spanish has married an other Spanish, an Italian has married another Italian, and so on) or because they do not have any kids yet.
I hope every body will participate exposing here many views of the multilingual environment/situations. Obviously, I must admit, I like most the kids subjects and I really do like the start of this forum.
My suggestion for discussion subjects has two parts:
1. How do you manage to understand and accept the culture, the traditions of your foreign partner. How do you manage to have contact to his social medium (friends and family)?
Love is the key, as I said at the title of this posting. If you get to know somebody, love him/her you do not even ask the question whether (or how) you would accept his/her culture. Accepting and understanding, IMO, is love, too. I think every body in the world has something to be understood and accepted about. Besides that, I also thought (even before marrying a non-Albanian guy, Italian precisely) that having a mixed situation/marriage would be fun, too. Of course some times is hard to understand and cope with many people's reaction, habits, traditions, but it it is still part of my challange and this does not disturb me.
2. I don't know how many of you also live in a foreign country and if you are interested to talk about your experience regarding the difficulties you face and the positive things you face in the new country.
Yea, as I said in the other forum, I am Albanian, my husband Italian, we live in Ukraine now (after Romania) and trying to get used in this country, too. There are so many things different from your country, food, climate, but you just start to know the place, people and understand a lot of what is going on and why. The difficulties? I don't know. Language to start with (in case you do not speak the language of that country), but besides that...you start, very slowly, to know the town, the markets, the restaurants, entertainment, people, and so on. There is not a strategy. There is a rule I have learned. Never be extremely critic about what you do not like in that place. Wait a bit. You get to gain an adaptation spirit tailored just for you by you. Positive things are, obviously, the first ones to impress you. In my case (Kiev) cultural life (absolutely beautiful), theaters, opera, concerts, etc, architectural values, and so many other things.
I don't know, Ruxi, you may would like to open different forums with these two different questions here. I am sure there are a lot of pros' with a lot more brilliant ideas.
Have fun and good luck in the multilingual world.
[Edited at 2004-06-16 20:19]
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