| It's more about balance really. || Aug 26, 2002 |
And acceptance, not restraint or even patience, because those two will lead to bottling up emotions and inevitable explosion at some point sooner or later.
While having a drink with a Scottish guy the other day he came up with a sentence about the English (you know you become more outspoken and daring after a pint or two), which turned out to be so unexpectedly funny that we both cracked up laughing, and I made a mistake of using this sentence in one of the comment exchanges with an English guy, it has now been deleted, which i think is a good idea! The English guy didn\'t really take offence (well, may be a little, sorry!) and made references to some people\'s infantile humour and mental age (ssss, that was a bit hurtful , but there was another person, who I understand, is not even English who called me a racist and demanded an apology (apologise for what? that very sentence sounds just as sarcastic as it sounds sympathetic) - I felt physically sick after that remark, in fact so sick that I wrote him an email saying something, again \'infantile\', about the hideous colours he used on his profile page, which are not even hideous, just different from what I would use on proz.com background colour (sorry!).
You see, humour is often based on irony and sarcasm, the mechanism of which is contrast - the sharper the contrast, the funnier it\'s going to be, which needs to be balanced with other people\'s sense of humour and sensibilities, and it\'s difficult because you don\'t really know most people on proz.com and can\'t really predict their reactions, which, in its turn, is stressful, because the mechanism of stress is lack of control (e.g. you are more under stress than your boss who\'s work might be even more demanding) - you don\'t know the other person\'s cultural background, his/her sense of humour, level of sensibility, motivations behind the comments, his/her physical or mental state (may be they are going through smth really hard in their life and so on and so forth). I remember a comment that was quite strange, only to find out later that that person was on pills at the time.
So, I am kinda still tuning into the ocean of wavelengths - each abound with human emotions and reactions to the very same comment.
I am glad I didn\'t make any personal remarks about other people\'s mental age, humour, grammar, geography, history - you name it!
And then there was this Jamaican guy during the computer course in Web Design that I did, not so long ago ......
not for proz.com, i am afraid , not after my experiences, thanks a lot
hope i will never grow up.
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