10:54 Nov 4 

@Helen, thanks for your posting and of course you are absolutely right about there being no rules and that the final decision lies with the asker however the peers have distributed their "agrees" . But he or she does usually want to find out what the peers think before deciding, so I will still try and vote in such a way that my personal preference is evident.

10:22 Nov 4 

It is not for me to tell you where to place your agree; that is your decision. When I find myself faced with this particular situation, my personal policy is to vote for the person who first suggested it. There are no rules. You only need to look at the 'agrees' to my own posting and you will see that some respondents indicate their preference for one or the other suggestion. This is about helping the Asker in the end - agrees are only opinions and not scores. The Asker is the only one with the full context and is asked to choose the most helpful answer, which might be the first one posted, or the one with the best explanation, or with the best references to support it. It is up to him/her.

07:18 Nov 4 

@Helen,
Thank you for your explanation of how things should work and I am very much in agreement, as I often have second thoughts myself and it's nice to be able to amend one's original answer.
However in this case the problem of "multiple choice" now arises, as your posting now contains the two most popular alternatives, so it's not just a refinement of your original suggestion.
How should people like me vote if they want to give their "agree" to "circle time" ? Do we vote for "circle time" as suggested by mOOnshine at 12 minutes or for "story time" as suggested by you at 4 minutes because you added "circle time" at 7 minutes and thus theoretically were the first to provide the answer we want to support?
My posting was from the point of view of a peer. I always try to give my "agree" to the person who first provides the answer I want to vote for. But in this case I had give my vote to MOOnshine and not to you, otherwise I would have ended up voting for your first answer, wouldn't I ? That's what I meant about your having a main and a subsiduary answer.
How do others deal with this dilemma? I have encountered it before.

19:58 Nov 2 

No problem at all - my comments were really addressed to British Diana's comments to me in her agree to your posting! This is the only place I can respond to her.

18:54 Nov 2 

@Helen

Sorry Helen, you presumably added your note to your original answer after I'd read it and was formulating my answer. I took a few minutes answering as I was distracted by an incoming e-mail and missed your note.

18:02 Nov 2 

Just to be clear, it is not customary to see suggestions given within one posting as subsidiary answers to main answers. We are encouraged not to post more than once, so further suggestions are generally added to the first suggestion. And it is also sensible if people read what their peers have suggested before posting themselves. No criticism of M00nshine intended here - sometimes people just forget to check.

13:13 Nov 2 

Ich hatte soetwas wie "sit round gathering' im Sinn, klingt aber irgendwie falsch!?