This is another synonym for coercive and could fit better.

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The problem with "coercive" is that it carries an indication of a delibrate act, something along the lines of what Sami's beard has suffered from (apologies Sami). However, this form "مفعال" indicates an uncontrolled quality, such as when we say "مزواج مطلاق" about somebody who cannot help keeping marrying and divorce (though why, it beats me). So, when a guy says his wife is "مرغامة" he indicates he cannot resist whatever she asks him, without her necessary exerting delibrate influence.

By the way, the story is about a guy whom Omar witnessed carrying his wife in Haj and complaining about doing that, though he chose to do it because of her beauty and because she gave birth to boys. So these qualities of hers force him to act this way, without her pushing him or blackmailing him, (or forming an unequitable alliance with the children! sorry again Sami, but I just loved your story)

I hope this explanation is مرغام :-) The word is of course pronounced with كسرة after the ميم.

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Note added at 1 day 6 hrs 44 mins (2003-12-02 09:47:16 GMT)
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You can find the story in:

http://almutawa.info/ara/article.php?sid=215

Which I was sure I posted yesterday, but obviously I did not. As for the formation, grammar book

http://www.ssschooly.net/arabic/arabic2.htm

Arabic term (edited): ������

Coercive woman
صفة الرجل مرغام وصفة المرأة مرغامة


Here's a definition from Oxford Dictionary:

"coercive
adjective
using force to persuade people to do things which they are unwilling to do:
The president relied on the coercive powers of the military.
coercive measures/tactics"

End of quote.

I need to know how did the woman force her husband to do what he did in spite of his refusal.



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Note added at 15 hrs 30 mins (2003-12-01 18:33:23 GMT)
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Dear Alaa,

I saw the verse before it was squashed.
As far as I remember, it was about a man carrying his wife, at the same time he was cursing her.

If we analyse the situation we will come to the conclusion that he was \"coerced\" to carry her. He was not carrying her willingly. Otherwise he would not curse her. Because, if she had angered him, instead of carrying her and making a fool of himself, he would have punish her instead. This is all speculation.

But, let me tell you a personal story about how a woman can coerce her husband. Three weeks ago, I desided to grow a beard. My wife hated it. She started nagging at me to shave. I resisted for three weeks. Then my wife mobilized by children to support her. With three against one, my beard had no chance of survival at all. Yesterday, Sunday, I was \"coerced\" to shave!

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Note added at 1 day 10 hrs 42 mins (2003-12-02 13:45:03 GMT)
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Dear Alaa,
Yes, I agree with you. I am not sorry for getting rid of it. Now everybody is happy, my wife, my children and the ...